2014: The Year I Choose to Eliminate 80% of my Misery
Recently,
I read a blog post titled “23 things to do instead of getting engaged
before you’re 23.” The girl writing the blog post noticed that more and
more of her friends were getting engaged while in college and getting
married right after graduation. As I read her post, I couldn’t help
but relate to almost everything she was saying. In fact, between
Thanksgiving and Christmas, I watched sixteen of my
Facebook friends get engaged. Think that number is crazy? We haven’t
even gotten to spring semester yet. I might as well kick back in front
of my computer with a bowl of popcorn and watch the “ring by spring-ers”
start popping up all over my social media.Now, I will pause here to say that I truly am very happy for my friends on their engagements and I hope God blesses their upcoming marriages. Marriage is something to be celebrated and many of my friends have obviously found the person that they love and are committed to spending the rest of their lives with. To them, I say congratulations and I wish you a lifetime of happiness!
However, if you are single, you can finally admit that even your happiest moments are clouded by this incessant voice whispering in your ear that these experiences would be better with a significant other to share them with. I mean, let’s be honest, how could you not when every song, TV show, movie, book, and often, sermon seem to center around finding your soulmate?
If I am really, really being honest, I am convinced that 80% of my misery is a direct result of this irrational pressure I feel that I should to be dating someone by this point in college. But the truth is that dating and marriage is a very serious topic for me and I am not ready for something that serious at this point in my life. People change a lot between high school and college. People change even more between college and their first year out of school. With that much change about to take place in my life, I want to make sure that I am changing into the person I want to be, without the influence of a significant other.
So enough is enough. I am done feeling guilty that I am single. Instead, I am committed to making this year about growing spiritually, physically, mentally, and emotionally into the person I want to be post-graduation. This year is about development, progress, discovery, and adventure.
With that being said, here’s my 2014 Vision Board with a list of 15 things I hope to accomplish this year. Cheers!
2014 Vision Board
1. Read the whole Bible
2. Drink at least two bottles of water a day
3. Raise a seed round of funding for ProfilePasser
4. Lay the groundwork for my book about my brother
5. Become financially independent/move out of the house
6. Support Ambassadors in Sport in South Africa
7. Coach either a club or collegiate soccer team
8. Increase flexibility and core strength 4x/week
9. Make something with my hands and sell it
10. Mentor someone younger than me
11. Learn more about tea and wine
12. Do something radical
13. Thank more people
14. Speak at an event
15. Travel to Boston, Nashville, & Ireland
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